During a friend's 70th birthday party, I was talking to a local sailing guru and was prompted to ask what I consider the most important question of my life. What astonishes me is not how few people ask this question, but that by my mid-50s, I had never asked it... One model of human behavior holds that we steer to the questions we ask, and that we tend to have dominant questions that rule our lives. Asking questions like How do I get a bigger piece of the pie? How can I get m